Know what others want but can't figure out what you want?
Are you a highly sensitive and/or empathic individual that keeps getting hijacked by negative energy?
Want to improve your communication skills to win friends and influence people?
Mirroring is the rapport-building act of mimicking what others around you are doing.
When you do this intentionally it can be powerful and effective in a positive way, but when you do this unconsciously and all the time, it can really muddy up your mind and energy.
Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to discover and harness the power of mirroring!
"I don't know what I'm good at."
This week, Source wants you to take notice of how and when you are mirroring. Let me explain.
Mirroring is something that we do to establish rapport and a connection to communicate and understand others with, right.
An example of mirroring is when someone is using their hands and nodding to speak with you rather than just sitting, which would not be mirroring.
You, as you listen, you nod and smile at them, or when you respond, you'll use your hands too.
This is a form of connections-making, rapport-building and communication, mirroring. There is a huge difference though that the guides want you to understand between intentional mirroring and unintentional mirroring.
Intentional mirroring is when we are very clearly using that technique to decide, "Okay. I am going to mirror this person to make them feel more comfortable, feel more connected" or "So that this other person understands me more, I'm going to really go along at their pace, slow down my speech or I'll speed it up so I can connect better to them," right.
This is the sign of a strong communicator, is that they're conscious about and strategic, the guides say in particular, about how and when they mirror others in the way that they communicate.
Now, naturally sensitive and intuitive, empathic people such as you and I, we do this on autopilot. There's good and not so good aspects to it.
Let's go to unintentional mirroring. Unintentional mirroring is when, if someone is coming into the situation with frustration or they're activated and intense and you are relaxed, you get swept away by their emotions.
Or if the ... Oh God. This is the worst one. When the hungry children commercial comes on or the animal abuse commercial comes on, ugh, and there's crying and the mirroring then is, "Oh my God. I feel emotional too."
Then because we're natural empaths, it's compounded. Not only are you establishing connection on autopilot, unintentionally, autopilot mirroring, but then on top of that then all of that energy and all of their emotions begins to flow through you and it can really hijack your energy and your mood for the day.
So this can be really serious, especially on the far end of the spectrum. I can't even be on camera.
There's intentional, unintentional and over here. The far end of the spectrum for mirroring, and this is something that you've really got to pay attention to this week, is categorized by feelings of "I don't know what I want" or if someone asks you, "Oh, what do you want to eat tonight?" "I don't know what, whatever you want," immediate mirroring.
It's beyond unintentional. It's a loss of center, a loss of grounding, a loss of self. If you're wondering, "What's my life purpose?" or "I don't know what I'm good at" or "I'm good at everything" or "I'm not good with making decisions. I change my mind all of the time, left and right."
If you don't feel centered or a sense of clarity, it may be, and I'm hearing the gods say, underlining and seeing them underlining this in the energy, it may be that you're off spectrum. You are so far mirroring that you've lost your own center.
Know this: Unintentional mirroring is a sign that you're not centered. #checkyourself @SenseiWhitfield
What happens when you're all the way over there is that, this is the shadow side. Be kind to yourself. You have to hear this. You can become an unconscious energy vampire.
When we're so far off and we're just mirroring everyone at the drop of a hat, that begins to drain all those around us because we're sucking in inspiration and energy from all those that are around us.
Just an example. If you're talking to people and they just start getting tired and tired and you're like, "Oh, why don't they just tell me to stop talking?" No, no, no. It's important for you this week in particular, the guides are saying, to notice when you're on the far end of the spectrum, right. Find your center.
Specifically this week, it's by watching for when you are over-mirroring. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to weigh in on this topic.
Healing with the angels oracle cards deck in particular came forward to send some healing energy to us. What if I don't know if I'm mirroring and you know what? I want to be able to be intentional and strategic about it. I want to get out of being unintentional and right out of balance.
Angels, what do we need to know? How can we send more healing to this situation?
Don't shuffle the top card. Woo. Okay. Freedom. This is the freedom card the guides are telling me to read to you specifically out of the book, all right. Freedom.
"The angels guide you to freely express your true thoughts and feelings with love. You may feel trapped right now by life conditions. By drawing this card, the angels ask you to realize that you are the only jail-keeper that ever surfaces in your own life."
You are the only jail-keeper.
"Whenever you realize that you have the power to be free, freedom follows. Everything that you do in your life is by choice, and you are free to choose again always. Even prisoners are free to choose their thoughts so that they feel peace and happiness under any conditions. The next time you begin a sentence with the words, 'I have to,' please stop yourself. Ask God and the angels to show you some alternatives. They will either help you complete the task from a loving mindset so that you don't feel trapped or they will guide you to do something else that you will love."
Here's where the freedom card comes into play specifically with mirroring. Becoming conscious is becoming aware of yourself.
It's important for you, in order to embrace your freedom as a person and as a sentient being, to become more self-aware. It starts this week or it continues this week with noticing when you are mirroring. Just watch.
Maybe write it down in a journal every time you notice, "Oh, I mirrored that person. I mirrored that person" or "That emotion wasn't mine. I was mirroring them" versus you're not mirroring someone and you're just empathically picking it up.
This is the road to developing empathic mastery, by the way, for all those of you who know about being an empath.
Working with your mirroring and increasing your self-awareness and consciousness level can help you master it as a powerful tool for psychic self-defense.
If you want to know more about that or exactly how to go about that, send me an email back, comment below and say, "Victoria, I want to know more about that" or "I'd like a session around that in particular because this is something I feel that's near and dear to my heart."
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In Love and Light,
Victoria.
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Just for Today...
Pay attention to how you mirror others, intentionally or unintentionally.
See if you can shift your awareness to being more intentional as you speak with others.
Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!
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