Love Letters | Mental Room – Part 3 of 4

This is week three of four in our deep dive around making room for you in life and business.

If you did not catch the first two weeks, you're behind. Pause now. Go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you're grounded in this process.

For week three, my guides have asked us to discuss, specifically, making mental and emotional room for yourself. This is critical because most of our energy in life comes from our mental and emotional state. What's the difference between mental and emotional? Mental is your mindset, the thoughts that you think and the stories that you tell yourself, the images that are in your mind from a moment-to-moment basis. That is your mental energy.

Emotional has to do with your heart, your vulnerability, your courageousness, and your emotions; how you feel about what's going on in your mind, how you feel about what's going on around you, including your reactions and your responses. Be kind to yourself. If you've been having a hard time telling the difference between the two or one is over here, and the other is over here, there may be a misalignment. If only just for now, we are bringing your mind and emotions back into alignment specifically this week by making room for them, for your authentic point of view and for your authentic feelings.

Now, for those of us who may have a past of being codependent or depending on someone or something external for an identity, this piece may be particularly difficult. What this means is that we're seeking externally for validation, for direction, for whether or not everything is okay. You are used to looking outside of yourself rather than tuning within. We may have had a past that showed us that going inward is dangerous or uncomfortable, and that is why instead of clearing our mind or tuning into our heart and our emotions.

Perhaps we don’t because the two of are disorganized and uncomfortable, and instead it’s just easier to just focus on other people. I heard a brilliant woman say at a conference I was recently attending, “I hide behind helping people,” and, ooh, my heart leapt out of my chest to her because I understand that. If that resonates with you, then this week is for you, too.

If you're making mental and emotional room for yourself, that means clearing out, firstly, on the mental side, anything or anybody who's taking up space in your mind without contributing in a positive way. When imbalanced, this could look like you catastrophizing, envisioning the worst possible outcome or remembering how bad things went before or ruminating on the negative. If that is your predominant mindset - how things have gone wrong, or how you're not good enough, or how things are not working out for you - this week, in particular, we want to bring that back to center by clearing out any of the negative mind chatter.

How do you do that? Make it concrete. Make it visual. Write it down. I double dare you. I'm from Jersey, and I’ll even Double Dawg Dare you to do it! Lol! I double dawg dare you to write down all of the worries and negative stories that are going on in your mind. This may take a while. Be kind to yourself. It is worth it. I especially recommend that you write it on toilet paper because I bet you know where that goes. Yeah, so clearing the mind by honoring all of the negative crusty stories it holds, writing down all the words that are floating around in your head to ground them out of you is healing.

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Then we go into making room in your emotions and in your heart. If your heart is crowded, that may look like getting caught up in drama, so much drama of what other people are going through, or the drama of your own family, and then really feeling a sense of unforgiveness, resentment and anger. You find yourself regularly holding low vibrational emotions, and, ugh, such a sense of frustration that ... Ooh, that just made my chest hurt. A sense of frustration where we can't really listen to our heart because our heart is so full of maybe grief, maybe anger, maybe a sense of resentment or jealousy, envy.

Again, a similar solution to clearing your heart center clearing the emotions is to write it down, write it down, write it down, all of the things that you feel. Again, that may take a while, but be kind to yourself. You are worth it.

One of the ways that we make room for ourselves mentally and emotionally is by getting ourselves out on paper and looking at that. Huh, look at all of these things that I'm so frustrated about. Look at all the things that I'm tolerating. Look at all of these awful stories that I'm telling about myself. Have compassion by making it visual. Get it out of your head and out of your heart onto paper this week.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy to help us to continue to create space for abundance making room. “Angels of Abundance” by Doreen Virtue and her son Grant Virtue, this Oracle card is deck is what we are using. Alrighty, angels, what do we need to know right now about making room for our highest self, specifically mentally and emotionally. Okay. “Clean Energy Food.” Thank you. Okay, I just got hit by that.

My spirit guides are saying there are stories around your food that you are no honoring. You're just ignoring the stories that you tell yourself about the food that you put in your body. Now, are these positive stories that uplift and energize you and love on you, or are these stories that beat you into submission or lower your vibration, make you feel sad or exhausted or even addicted? There's also emotions that you have around the food that you are taking into your body. “Oh, just this one time” or that sense of devil-may-care, or a sense of hurriedness, like, "Oh, I'm just going to shove this in my face and keep on going because I don't matter." Yeah, how does that feel? Slow down around your relationship with food this week.

That is a wonderful one way to start clearing your mind and your heart, specifically in relationship to food, is what my spirit guides just said, but what did the angels say through Doreen and Grant? “When you fuel your body with a healthful organic diet, you increase your energy levels and ability to focus. This automatically leads to more efficiency, better ideas, and a higher vibration, which attracts golden opportunities, and beneficial relationships.” This is so perfect, and this is where we're going to leave off for the week.

In addition to the mental and emotional practice of taking food into your body this week, please know that as you eat clean energy food, that also helps to fuel your mind fuel your brain, as Dave Asprey would say, to cleanse your blood which also clears your heart. There is an emotional and mental benefit to eating clean energy food, even if you just pause for a few seconds before you start eating to say, "Thank you for all the love that I've received today," and infuse that food with that intent.

What comes up for you hearing all this? Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com, and make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. All right, I'm excited to hear how you're doing making room for yourself. I'll see you next week. Bye for now.

Just for today...

Write down all of the negative chatter going on in your mind and heart, to make room for something better.

Feel the energy clearing as you dump it out on to the page – or even a couple feet of toilet paper – and clear your head of all that low vibration.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.