This is week two of four of our exploration of healing loneliness.
Last week we really opened up to making room for this as a feeling. More often than not we run from it. If you didn't see that video, you can go ahead and hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, so that you are grounded in this process.
Without further ado, this week in particular, as we are healing our relationship with loneliness, we're going to talk about romantic conscious relationships. Have you ever had this experience where you've been with someone, and it didn't work out romantically speaking, and how it didn't work out really left a scar? It affected your ability to perceive possible romantic prospects going forward. Does that sound familiar? What am I talking about? I'm talking about heartbreak.
Yes, yes. Be kind to yourself if you've experienced heartbreak in the past. Today is the day that you are going to honor that as the greatest gift you've ever received, when it comes to how you show up as a conscious human being in your romantic relationships. Yes, really. The heartbreaks that you received in the past, in your experience and your journey of cultivating romantic partnerships, your heartbreaks that you have received are actually your greatest gifts. Because these heartbreaks don't just break us down.
One of the reasons why I cut all my hair off in the first place was because of an incredibly deep emotional rupture, or heartbreak. Now when I first saw it, I thought, "Yeah! I love my hair." It was a breakthrough for me. Where we're anchoring around heartbreak is instead of seeing it as a breakdown, this is a breakthrough. You are breaking open, breaking out of a former paradigm.
Where we could be at right now, as we're sharing this moment together and as you watch this video or read this blog, is that your feelings of loneliness are stemming from a lack of romantic relationship fulfillment. The message from the guides for you this week, is that if you are feeling that sense of emptiness or loneliness because of a previous heartbreak, it's time to find why that was a gift.
Turn it into a gift. It's time to rewrite your story. Because if we tell ourselves a bad story – and by the way I've done this, so I'm not perfect, I'm just as guilty as the next person – if we tell ourselves a story that is of disempowerment, victimization, being left behind, abandonment and betrayal, if we tell ourselves that story, we'll only reinforce coming to that space of loneliness and emptiness. The conclusion could be: “it's safer for me to be alone than to be in relationship. Because look at what happened in the past. Look at that. We don't want that again.”
If that's where you're at right now, harboring grief and anger, I'm sending you so much love, so much love. In order for you to heal your relationship with loneliness around a lack of romantic fulfillment, if only just for today, it’s about finding where are the pieces of heartbreak that are in your energy field – in your mind, and in your heart – and take each one of those pieces and find how that was a gift.--
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What are you no longer tolerating because of that? What did that cause you to embrace instead? What were you breaking out of with that heartbreak? Or what did you break through into?
For now, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, it's the Romance Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue. I'm going to ask “Angels, what do we need to know right now about finding gratitude when we're feeling romantically lonely?” Another way that that can manifest is when you're around couples, you have that sense of longing, like or rage, like, "Why are you together?" Or, "Oh, I wish I had someone." That unsettled feeling, that unfulfilled feeling. “Angels, what do we need to know right now?” Here we are. This one is sticky: Unrequited Love.
Unrequited love. There's not enough attraction or chemistry to keep this relationship going. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. You know, when it comes to our romantic relationships, especially as sensitive, soulful people and energetically conscious human beings, we give so much love, and what happens when who we had partnered with in the past – or maybe even right now as you're watching this video or reading this blog – is just not able to meet at that level of giving, too?
Be kind to yourself. What are you being called to break out of? Experiencing unrequited love? The universe is not against you in you having the experience of unrequited love. You're actually having this FOR you. This experience is happening for you. If you were to step back and rewrite the story of what you're experiencing right now, or did in the past, that you may be holding onto, what would that story be? If this was happening for you, to break you out of a former paradigm, so that you can emerge into a new level of conscious relationship, what is that former paradigm that you are breaking out of?
I want to hear it! Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com or comment below, wherever this is posted. I want to hear what are you being called to break out of by feeling that loneliness, by feeling and experiencing unrequited love? This is not something that's happening to you, it's happening for you. Are you ready for it?
I'm sending you so much love and support, and I am surrounding you in the light of clarity, so that you're able to receive what you're breaking out of. Chills! Apparently, you needed to hear that today. Maybe you didn't know until just now that this was happening FOR you. But let me be the one to tell you, yes, it absolutely is.
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Just for today...
Rewrite your story of your heartbreaks in romantic relationships.
Instead of telling a story of being victimized or betrayed, try to tell a story of breaking out of an old paradigm and being set free, seeing the heartbreak as your greatest gift.
Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!
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