This is week three of four in our exploration of stopping faking it. It's time; #StopThat.
If you haven't seen the first two parts, by the way, hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and click on part one. Start there so that you are grounded in this clearing process that we're going through together.
The topic of this week's Love Letter is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance. If we are going to stop faking it ‘til we make it, and if we are going to let go of being perfect - or let go fighting because we think we're not good enough - if we're going to let go of that fight and put our weapons down to surrender in that fight - I get the chills as I say that for you, sending you so much love around having the courage to put down your weapons and stop fighting to be good enough - if we're going to do that, that means we've got to learn how to practice self-acceptance. Self-acceptance!? What the heck does that mean, Victoria? Does it even exist?
Self-acceptance is, for one - my guides are telling me to tell you this - for one, it is not a single event. Self-acceptance is not like a, “ta-da, I accept myself and then I'm done” sort of single event. No, no, no. Self-acceptance is an ongoing series of choices, observations, and celebrations over and over and over again. And it’s celebrations not only of the good stuff, but also celebrating, “you know what? This about me kind of sucks. Yay. I don't have to have it all figured out.” I'm going to be kind to myself because I accept that I have limitations. There are things that I don't know. There are, in fact, things that I don't know that I don't know. There are things that I don't like.
Believe it or not, there are emotions that I have where I can be mad from time to time, or sad, and I celebrate the dark side to me: the preferences, and the point of view that I have as a unique human being. I do not have to be the way that someone may have told me that I have to be. Repeat: I do not have to be the way that someone told me that I have to be. Instead, I accept myself as I am. Over and over and over again - especially when it's hard to, especially when I don't like myself - this is when I need to celebrate my shortcomings even more.
Now, for those of you who've been following my work or who've known me for quite some time now, you know that my automatic setting right now is Auto Clap, lol, it’s like I'm just on Auto Celebrate. And this behavior is something that I didn't used to have as a person. I used to be pretty gloomy, I had a really, really dark personality earlier in life, but I trained myself over time to look for things to celebrate in all situations.
What that did is it made me emotionally stronger and stronger with time. It helped open my eyes to the good. There's so much good. Even in the darkest things that have ever happened in my life, there has been so much good because I'm set to celebrate, and that setting is an act of self-acceptance that I have been engaging in - that I've been deciding to engage in - over and over and over and over again.
On the other hand, what is also a learned behavior is self-rejection. Be kind to yourself if you are the Queen of self-rejection or the King of denying yourself. Be kind to yourself if you're really, really good at booing yourself before anybody else can, making sure that you put yourself down before anybody else can. Sometimes we learn that as a coping mechanism for growing up and coming up in an abusive environment, so that you can, in a twisted way, empower yourself by hurting yourself first to cut people off at the pass. That behavior, you don't need it anymore. I give you permission, if only just for now to let that go once and for all.
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Know this: Sometimes we learn that, as a coping mechanism for living and working in an abusive environment, to fake empower yourself by putting yourself down first to cut others off at the pass. That behavior, you don't need it anymore. #stopthat #mindset #respect @SenseiWhitfield
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Hey, hey, hold on a sec - you're watching or reading this on a device, right? I'm inside some screen somewhere as you're watching or reading this, so that means we are having a very, very private moment, you and I. No one else can hear or see me like you can right now. So, I want you to know in the bottom of your soul: you don't have to do that twisted stuff anymore to yourself. Today's the day. I know you wouldn’t admit that openly. That’s fine. But if you're watching or reading this, in this very moment, Spirit brought you here, so right now please know you have permission to just let that go completely. You have no more need to beat yourself up at all.
Self-acceptance is what you're called to, and it takes just as much energy as self-rejection. If you were to count how many times a day you put yourself down, sooner or later you'd realize there's a pattern behind that, and that pattern is a learned skill. The opposite is true, right? How many times you celebrate yourself in a day, that's a pattern, too. That is a learned skill, too. That's something that you can build, a muscle that you can grow over time.
So, if only just for today, please know that the name of the game is self-acceptance: to find something at all times - whether it is good or bad - about yourself, as you are, to celebrate, to accept, and to just observe. Doesn't mean you necessarily right out the gate approve of everything. Hey, I’m right there with you. We are human. And at the same time, we are human beings: being willing to celebrate it, being willing to observe it, being willing to see it rather than just stuffing, stuffing, stuffing, stuffing down.
I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy around that. Healing with the Angels by Doreen Virtue is the deck that we're journeying with all month. Let me ask the fairies. Wait... I said Healing with the Angels? ... autopilot. Oops! It’s Healing with the Fairies oracle cards deck! LOL! I bet you didn't know the difference, though, did you? Ha ha. Maybe you did. I’m so leaving that perfectly imperfect mess up in! I love it... Okay, fairies, what do we need to know about self-acceptance right now? Oh my goddess. Yay, I love this card! Breaking Free. And that's you. Breaking Free - and the fairy on the card is out in the outer realms, arms spread wide, wings all the way up and just flying high, breaking free from everything.
Here's the message from the fairies: you are breaking free in to a new level of self-acceptance, maybe for the first time. Your ability to, as you can, find something to celebrate, find something about yourself to observe and to accept and just see – this is breaking you free. You don't even have to do anything about it. Just observe it. This is you breaking free from the chains that have been holding you down - maybe in life, maybe in your business. One chain at a time, you’re breaking free, breaking free, breaking free. You can do it! You’re doing it!
This is an affirmation from source that you're on the right path. Keep going. And know you’re not alone - I'm your traveling partner, Sensei Victoria Whitfield – on your ascension path in life and business. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. Let’s keep journeying together.
Hit that share button, by the way, if there's someone that you love and care about who you believe it's time for them to break free, too, send this letter their way. Maybe this might just bless and change their day. And remember to please enjoy the journey. Make sure that you do not lose your glow as you grow in life and business.
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Just for today...
Celebrate the good and the bad about yourself today, in an act of radical self-acceptance and healing.
Honor and appreciate your strengths as well as your weaknesses, acknowledge and announce what you know that you know, as well as what you genuinely don’t know, shame-free.
Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!
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