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Love Letters | The Empath Trap – Part 5 of 5

Posted on January 27, 2020January 7, 2020 by Sensei Victoria Whitfield

This is week five of five in our deep dive into shifting our perspective, and we’ve been discussing the exact mechanics of how to shift our perspective so that we can step into our divinity fully in life and business.

For week five, my guides have asked me to speak to you on a pivot topic as we prepare for our next series of love letter videos. But before I get to the topic, if this is the first of the series that you are seeing, make sure you pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from week one so that you are grounded in this process.

This week, my guides have shown me that we need to talk about the empath trap. Don't fall for the empath trap. And I see this is shockingly prevalent, the more I've been going live on Facebook, actually. If you haven't seen my Facebook page, where I'm dropping what I call #lovebombs for you, then youre missing out on some real activating inspiration. Go ahead to Facebook.com\senseivictoriawhitfield to catch some of those. They really, really add a pep to your step and wake you up if you've been kind of asleep at the wheel in life and business.

What I found is that the more that I've been going live, the more I find people from all over the world falling into the empath trap. And here's what it is: where you expect somebody else to make you feel better. Now, that's it in a nutshell, but I'd like to just clarify a little bit more of that. First of all, if you don't know what an empath is, let's start there because that's jargon, right?

An empath is someone who is an emotional sponge. It's different than empathy. With empathy, you choose to see a situation through somebody else's eyes. You use your mind, your mental acrobatics abilities to construct the idea of what it would be like to walk in somebody else's shoes. You choose to do that, and that's compassionate, that's awesome, and develops rapport.

But someone who's an empath has the ability to really feel what others are going through, emotionally and physically, and it happens against their will. So that means, if someone's coming in in a grumpy mood, all the sudden, the person in the room who's an empath will start feeling grumpy, and they were fine before. Or if somebody has a headache, the person who's an empath will start feeling like their head hurts, or another part of their body is suddenly hurting too, not because they're mentally unstable or something like that, but because the way that their body is wired is that they're a sponge. They soak in the physical and emotional feelings of others in their environments.

We see this in the animal kingdom as well, not just amongst people. Think of dogs and cats. If you have a dog or a cat, it's not that they can speak English, necessarily, but have you ever noticed that they feel sad when you feel sad? Or they can sense in their bodies if something's not quite right with you? It's amazing because animals are highly empathic. It's our birthright as beings here on earth, being empathic. It's another sense that we have, to be able to sense the emotional and physical feelings of others around us, because it's another form of communication.

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Now, in more recent years, in the New Age, Metaphysical, spiritual-but-not-religious sort of soul-seeking communities online or the self-help or Angel Healing, energy healing and etc. groups online, there's this whole philosophy and subculture around being an empath that says, "Oh, you're special and you need special help. And we got to band together and got to protect and got to read all these books" and similar stuff like that. What I found is, when I'm going live on Facebook, I'll attract more empaths as viewers because I am one, and I understand that. But those who have fallen into the empath trap think that other people are going to solve their problem for them, or ease their symptoms, or give them the answers that they're seeking.

And when we're committed to shifting our perspective so that we can finally step into, meaning claim, the power of our divinity in life and business, we're not waiting for somebody else to come to the rescue. In the words of the fabulous Lisa Nichols, the mantra is, “I am my rescue." It's so important, as an empath, to honor the fact that you have power.

So if someone's sharing, like myself, intuitive readings or channelings or insights or talking about psychic development and so on and so forth, and you feel like, "Okay, this person has answers. Hey, you tell me blah blah blah about my parent who's passed on" or "Hey, you look at my aura and see if there's any blockages in it," then be kind to yourself: that's actually disempowering for you. That doesn't enable you to step into your divinity. Instead, that puts the onus on the other person and gives your power away.

I want you to know that you have power and that this is the week that you are going to get out of that empath trap. Because when it comes down to it, an imbalanced or dysfunctional empath feels good when others feel good or feels bad when others feel bad. That always puts you at a disadvantage. Please take your power back!

We're going to go more into this in the next series, but for now, we’re here at beautiful Washington Rock in the dead of winter to really open up and get that nature energy to help us process and reclaim our expansive power. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the Isis Oracle by Alana Fairchild. The last one of the series is ... Ooh, this couldn't have been better. The Eye of Horus. Awakening divine perception.

Here's where we're going to leave off for the week: Claim your ability to take control of your life. Claim your ability to create your life by design, to tune into Source, to plug in to Spirit. You can do this. Awaken your divine perception. You have it by birthright. You don't have to get it from somebody else secondhand. It's yours. You can cut out the middleman.

If this message was for you, go ahead, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com or comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, and I'll see you next time for the next series.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey. Bye for now.

Just for today...

Decide to take back your power by claiming your birthright as an empowered, empathic and intuitive being, and to stop giving your power away.

Declare "I am my rescue. I claim my birthright to create my own life and to connect to Spirit myself!"

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

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Love Letters | No Longer Tolerable – Part 4 of 5

Posted on January 20, 2020January 7, 2020 by Sensei Victoria Whitfield

This is week four of five of our deep dive into shifting our perspective, so that we can step into our divinity, finally, in life and business.

If you are just seeing this for the first time and you didn't start from week one, please make sure that you go ahead and stop now, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com, so that you can be grounded in this process. Start at week one.

For our fourth week, my spirit guides have said that we need to talk about the importance of knowing what is no longer tolerable. Last week, we really sank our teeth into our role, and knowing it clearly. We honored who we are and what our purpose is here on Earth: to be that guide, that light, that only you can shine, or only I can shine, from my own unique story, and yours within yours.

We're here, again, at Washington Rock in the dead of winter. It is a very foggy day, so normally we are able to see between 20 to 30 miles out. You might have seen that in the previous videos. But, this is so good, that the weather has shifted to be even more foggy, because this now brings the perspective inward. Right? That's a message and a representation of our intention right now, is to be very clear, inwardly, of what is no longer acceptable.

At your previous point of perspective of where you were coming from before, perhaps there were certain people, certain behaviors, certain foods, and certain investments that you were engaging in, that were acceptable. They were part of your standard operating procedure. And, when we get to a certain point of development, or achieve a certain level of success, there is this expectation that what's been working is going to continue to work.

Now, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, however, that is unfortunately the definition of insanity. There's real satisfaction, there is real fulfillment in having progress, meaning, when we get to grow from our experiences. So, when we're called for to expansion and ascension, personally or professionally, that involves changing what our definition of what is tolerable.

I'm not exactly sure who this message is for. But, I want you, since you're watching or reading this right now, I want you to consider, “What am I tolerating?”

Ask yourself “what am I tolerating in my personal life?” for example, that is keeping me at this level of weight, or in this type of relationship. “What am I tolerating? Am I tolerating people talking down to me, or telling me how things need to be? Or, am I tolerating the reaction that my body has to certain foods, such as gluten?” for example. What are you tolerating personally, that could be reinforcing the same sick cycle recurring and recurring personally, but also professionally?

What are you tolerating? Are you tolerating receiving a certain level of income, because other people said you should be satisfied with that? Or, if you look to your right and you look to your left, that's what everybody else makes. And that's what everybody else is saying is “acceptable.” Are you tolerating that? Or are you tolerating, also professionally, a mentor or an authority figure that might rub you the wrong way in some key areas, but because other things are really great, you overlook that? You instead, stay, and follow their rules, but murmur about the things that bother you, on your off time or in quiet moments to yourself, or confidants.
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Be kind of yourself if that's your situation: that you're tolerating things. That can be a coping mechanism, to create a sense of stability, and I'm hearing this very loud and very aligned in the energy, to tell you that in order to create stability finally for yourself, you may have remove more tolerations from off your plate.

Be kind to yourself. There's a difference between telling yourself what’s acceptable and actually having clarity. When you're just accepting what you've been handed to you, there's a of lack of innovation there, a lack of agency. You don't have to give away your power. When you are clear that “this is what I want”, or clear that “this is how I feel”, and you voice that, as well as stand true to that, yes, it may trigger some people, or may ruffle some feathers, or make things a little unstable for a time. But, that's temporary, because you're getting back into alignment, putting yourself back at the center at which you deserve to be.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month we've been journeying with the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild, and I'll make this quick, because my fingers are freezing. Happy winter everyone! Let's see. Oh, gorgeous. Initiation. Spiritual testing of Ra and lady Isis.This is where we are going to leave off for the week.

The reason why you're shifting your perspective this week in particular, by getting clear on what is no longer tolerable and what you're no longer going to be tolerating, is because you're on a path to Initiation. This is your time. This is the time for you to shift. Not later, it's now. It's now.

And, when you decide that a certain thing is no longer acceptable, that activates your inner power. I can tell that to you from my own story, when I personally decided that being in an abusive relationship - which was most emotionally and, at times, financially, and even physically abusive - when I decided that was no longer acceptable, I was not going to tolerate this anymore, my whole life changed. I had behaviors, such as leaving that person and investing more in my own self-worth, and raising my confidence level, I had behaviors that followed through with that, because it was unequivocal.

I decided I'm not tolerating this anymore. Similarly, my behaviors shifted when I personally decided that smoking was no longer something I was going to tolerate as a behavior of mine, and being around people who smoke regularly was not acceptable either. I had asthma, and it would exacerbate my asthma. Since I quit my breathing has been so much better, and the quality of relationships that I have around me have been so much better, too.

So, what are you no longer tolerating? Comment below, or send me an email back, at VictoriaWhitfield.com/Contact, or Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. Let me know, what are you no longer tolerating. What is no longer acceptable in your life and in your business? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get these Love Letters first, every week, and I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please, enjoy the journey. Bye for now!

Just for today...

Take an inventory of what you are tolerating in life and business.

First, write out a list of Tolerations, and then secondly, go back through the list and for each line write out the real, honest reason why you are still (or are no longer) tolerating it.