Yay! We made it week four of four in our wonderful discussion and deep dive around being a catalyst for change, and we're taking the path of peace as a catalysts for change.
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Without further ado, this week in particular we are going to be talking about allowing Positive Discomfort. Positive discomfort as a concept extends out of what we discussed last week: being in the space of the Beautiful No, and embodying the graceful feminine and the graceful masculine. Doing that rather than coming from an immature warrior posture, where you’re trying to fight your way out or cut people down, or even cut yourself apart to be able to carve out healthy boundaries. Be kind to yourself.
Being an empath means you are someone who picks up on ambient emotional energy without any visual, sound or sensory cues. You don't need any sight, sound, taste, touch, or smell cues to be able to understand there's tense emotional energy in the environment. Now, if for you as an empath, the concept of positive discomfort sounds altogether alien, don't worry, you're not alone. That's why the Guides have us having this conversation, you and I, right now. Our tribe of positive people, our positive empathic community has got to embrace and understand the power of positive discomfort.
What would positive discomfort look like? That would look like allowing inspirational cognitive dissonance and letting that set in on whoever you are communicating with. It’s allowing that, rather than leaping in when someone disagrees with you or leaping in when something is still evolving; when someone's still learning but they haven't quite gotten it yet, or leaping in when someone is being rude or out of line or out of alignment. Instead, it's about creating a space for understanding, accountability, respect, inclusion, and honor of yourself and others.
What can happen often for us as empaths is that we create safe spaces for others and don't include ourselves in that space, and we end up wandering around or, with love, my clients end up wandering around wondering “who's going to hold safe space for me? Who's going to hold safe space for me? I wish people would be able to show me love the way that I do, or advocate for me the way that I do for others.” There's that inner abandoned child within us all, and I’m right there with you - I'm channeling and also speaking to you from experience. There's that inner abandoned child within all of us who had the bad experience, and now as we discussed in a previous week, we are so motivated to create incredible change that we end up endlessly running from that former wound.
At this point where we are at in our conversation, it’s become time that we really start anchoring and allowing for positive discomfort. Better yet, allowing positive disruption. In fact, there are two forms of stress. Maybe you've heard me talk about it before. There's stress where there's the negative type of stress, and then there's “eustress.” You put the 'eu' before the word, eustress, for positive stress. This is when you are so inspired that you're feeling activated in a positive yet stressful situation. Your heart rate will increase. You might start perspiring. Parts of your body might start turning on and preparing for performance.
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If it was for a negative influence, you'd have all the same physiological reactions, but because it's coming from a positive influence, it is considered positive stress, positive discomfort, and positive disruption. To bring it all home before we get to the Oracle Cards for the week, how do we tell the difference? Here's how.
Positive discomfort is free from shame. Negative discomfort incurs pain and shame; it is belittling. It is disempowering. Positive discomfort releases shame. It is celebratory, honoring, shines light, respectful, uplifting, inspiring, but when it comes down to it, it specifically does not inflict shame. Now that's a bit of a preview of the next series that we're going to be talking about. The Guides have already come to me and laid out the next few weeks, so stay tuned for continuing on that discussion.
Suffice it to say, for this week in particular, or as we say in Reiki, just for today: allow positive discomfort. Perhaps that'll come through in your marketing. Perhaps that'll come through in the way that you speak to people and honor your boundaries. Perhaps that comes through as you continue practicing your positive and Beautiful No, honoring your boundaries with others. So, let us consult the Crystal Oracle Cards. Guides, please show us what do we need to know right now about positive discomfort. What does that look like? What crystal wisdom do you have for us today? Here goes: Kyanite. Oh, I wish I had a piece of kyanite to show you. I know I have one at home. Kyanite is a gorgeous, gorgeous blue like the ocean, the Caribbean ocean. Kyanite. All right let's read:
“Kyanite represents intuition, ideas, and dreams. Pay attention to your intuition and to your dreams over the coming days, for you are being guided towards deeper spiritual understanding and insight. Through this process, much of which occurs on a subconscious level or in your dream state, a rather ingenious idea will surface that will radically change your views on life, particularly your career. Kyanite will help you ground this idea as you discover ways of practically applying your idea in everyday life and work. However, do not try to force the process. The idea will surface when you least expect it. Simply relax and allow yourself to be open to new possibilities and insights. Know that they already exist within you in an abstract spiritual form.”
Here's where we're going to leave off for this week: When invoking positive discomfort, it's about allowing for natural positive outcomes to occur. There's an assumption of pronoia: meaning, things are happening FOR you, and getting better and better with time. This is the wonderful wisdom that Kyanite as a crystal is bringing us this week in particular: assume that the discomfort that you are sensing serves a positive purpose. I know as an empath you want to jump in and resolve all discomfort. You want everything to be comfortable and everyone to be safe. Understood. That's why you're an amazing leader, and you're an amazing lover as well. Be kind to yourself! Be kind to yourself. The positive discomfort you sense can also serve your people, can also serve you and a greater future.
Remember, as Kyanite is telling us, to assume that things are happening FOR you, and getting better and better with time. That's how you can choose to see this activation, rather than seeing it as disruption or something more intimidating, just see it as positive activation. You can do this. You can allow this. Tell me what's coming up for you because I'm having a little bit of a pushback in the energy as I say this to you. I don't know who that's coming from - maybe you? Send me an email back and info@victoriawhitfield.com or sign up for us to chat about working together at https://www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact/
Comment below: What comes up for you on allowing people to be activated in your presence? Allowing your marketing to inspire positive discomfort, right, and being that inspirational catalyst for change that you are. I'm excited to hear what you say, and I will see you soon for the continuation of our discussion in the next video series. So, as always, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week and I'm sending you all my love. See you soon. Bye!
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Just for today...
Choose to stand in your power unapologetically, and to inspire and activate the people around you.
Allow the fear of being seen and the fear of other people’s feelings to flow right through and out of you into the ground beneath you, while you stand tall and shine bright like the beautiful catalyst for positive change you are!
Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!
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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.
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