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Love Letters | Sales As Healing – Part 4 of 4

Posted on April 27, 2020April 5, 2020 by Sensei Victoria Whitfield

This is our final week four of four in our exploration of healing sales, our sales scars and shame around asking for the sale. Healing the bad, crusty experiences that we've had in the past.

If this is the first video that you are seeing in this series, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you start from part one and are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week four of four, the guides have asked us to continue the conversation that we started last week, and specifically talk about sales as healing. Sales as healing? Holy tomato! For some people, that's about the most opposite possible thing that they could think of when they think of sales. “Are you kidding me? Sales is like you're raiding and pillaging everyone. It's like an attack.”

Sales can be perceived as an attack, and if we've had some negative experiences in the past, in those really powerful transformational moments that come up for us regarding a larger sale such as buying a house or a car, or a coaching program, or a new building, and so on and so forth. If someone's done you wrong in that level sale, that scar runs deep, but in the words of Robert Bly from Iron John- which is amazing if you haven't read it yet – “Every wound is a womb.” Every wound is a womb.

The wounds that we may have received in our past of sales not going very well for ourselves or being done to us - or even witnessing sales happening between others that aren’t ethical - every wound that we receive is actually a womb. And what is a womb? It's a place where new life is created, so that's why we're talking about sales as healing. These wounds that we've received over the course of engaging in commerce are sacred, whether you are an entrepreneur or not. You don't have to own a business to have engaged in the sale. Anything you have, the clothes on your back, glasses, the shoes, underpants on your butt (hopefully, you're not wearing any? No judgment.) you have that because someone sold it to you.

You live in this house because someone sold it. Be kind to yourself. Your education, you have it because someone sold you on having education. But at the same time some of those experiences of being sold, being brought from one paradigm to another through a sale - a sale bridges gaps - that paradigm shift can be a bit traumatic.

But I want to elevate to this vision that the guides are sending for us right now of sales as something entirely different: sales is healing. I really want to drop into my heart and be blunt right now with you, because a lot of my lists of people who are watching these videos, following on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or wherever you are, if it's just landed into your inbox or someone forwarded me to you: nine times out of 10 you're some sort of a teacher, coach, healer, or a caregiver of some sort, right? You support people. You offer a healing presence.

If you are watching or reading this right now, whether you're a hairdresser cutting hair, an accountant doing taxes, or a lawyer working through your cases, whether you're working in construction, or you're like a transformational women's divine feminine coach goddess, or some other service-based business in addition to all of the above. If you're watching and still reading this right now, what magnetized you is not just my lovely exciting shirt and sparkly energy, but it's the fact that you see a piece of you in me. By the way, likewise; I see a piece of myself in you, in that we are Healers. We're here to heal the world. We're here to bring healing presence.

If you are having a hard time receiving financial abundance, it's because you have not shifted your point of view yet around sales. You haven't shifted it yet to see sales as healing. Sales is healing. Now, I'm a Reiki Master, an alternative medicine energy healer. I'm a woo-woo person, and proudly wave my rainbow woo-woo flag. I’m down with unicorns and glitter and high vibrational multi-dimensional energy - all of that, 100%. And the only way that I am able to share all that woo-woo goodness juice with the people who are starving and dried out and like desperate for it – they’re spiritually dehydrated. They need the juice. - is if I get out there and share my gift. If I get out, open up and talk about who I am and what I do, and what I can do for you. That's the purpose of sales.

Sales is actually healing for the people who are thirsty for the juice that you have created. I'm not talking about selling people stuff that they don't need. That can actually turn more into an addiction. I mean, hey, I have an addictive personality. Let me pull myself out the closet and like flap that in the air for you, okay? So yeah, I can have an addictive personality where, oh my gosh, I just want to go, I want to buy a bunch of stuff to alleviate my frustration right now. I want to buy a bunch of information courses and a bunch of books, and a bunch of crystals, right? Maybe that's been you before, and to some extent the things that I'm drawn to are what I need in the moment.

And those people who are out there selling the crystals, the necklaces, the books, the audio courses, the things that are going to lift me back up, I thank the Goddess for them. But I'm not going to be going out there and buying like, you know, sprockets and light bulbs and tires and things when I'm in my emotional state searching for a certain thing. If I need energy, I'm going to go out there looking for things that are going to give me energy for what I'm looking for.
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That's the key for sales being healing. It's you putting out “what am I going to help people with? And here it is.” I really appreciate Russell Brunson, his concept of having a Bridge to help us get from that state of “Alright already! I'm in frustration and in trouble” to “here, let's talk about the sale.” Having a Bridge is what's going to help you engage more sales as the healing part of your business. It not only heals your bank account when you close successful sales, but it also is healing for the clients and customers who are receiving exactly what they need.

Having a Bridge, and this comes from Russell Brunson, is to have a phrase that helps anchor in the fact that you are here to help them, and you have something that you would like to help them with. So what is that phrase? It could be asking for permission of someone who, you know, if you're out sharing your gifts and you see they could really use what you are providing, say, "Hey, I see that you have this situation going on. Is it okay if I share with you something that I put together to make things easier for you?” Or, “I put something together to serve you, and I was wondering if you would want to hear more about it?"

Ask for permission. Sales is healing when you always ask permission, first.You want to get consent in guiding someone through their paradigm shift, because the worst thing is pushing someone into a paradigm shift who doesn't want it and isn't ready for it. Sales is healing because we raise the buyer’s vibration. We help people into a new, more empowered reality as long as you're doing it ethically. When done unethically, unfortunately it can become like what we've been talking about for the last few weeks: something that is much more of a scarring experience.

Now, you've got to remember to turn on your natural intuition. Tune into your body. Clear your energy. Listen to your heart. If you feel your heart opening towards someone, feeling compassionate and wanting to help them, listen to that desire, that sensation of oh my goodness, I really want to help them. I feel for them. That's a sign from the Universe to actually take out your bridge, bring it over to them and say, "Hey, I see you're going through this situation. I know about something that could help you”, or “I put this thing together that could really make it easier for you. Is it okay if I share it with you?" Get their consent, and then go ahead, honor them by giving them access to the thing that will help them the most. Sales is so incredibly, powerfully healing. Comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

For now we're going to jump into the Oracle cards. The deck that we've been journeying with is Angels of Abundance by Doreen Virtue, these Oracle cards of Doreen with her son Grant. “Alright, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about sales as healing and how to activate our natural intuition now, other than reading Victoria's book?” ...Oh, snap. Throwing down some serious love bombs.

Face your financial fears. When you are honest with yourself about fears of success or failure, honest with yourself, they can no longer control you. Be free of hidden fears by exposing them to the light of awareness, and you'll realize that you in fact have nothing to fear, and that every successful person has struggled with and releases these self-doubts. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. The perfect landing point for this series.

You know, when you release fear around sales, receiving more or delivering more sales conversations, when you release that fear and you have faith that this is actually a healing going on, all of that momentum around blocking abundance lifts. Have faith that what you are sharing is healing. Focus on the healing. Don't focus on your fear or on your self-doubt. That'll sabotage you. You'll end up self-sabotaging.

Do the inner work first, though, to get yourself into a space of total faith in the work that you do or in the product that you're talking about. Do the inner work around understanding that when you go into a sales conversation, or when someone's trying to engage you in that, there's a healing going on. Be open to receiving or giving the healing more so than the money, okay? Be more focused on the healing work than the finances, and nine times out of 10 you'll end up closing the sale and the finances will come.

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid of focusing on the healing because you're so afraid of the money. If that's your case, please reach out to me at www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact You can hop on the phone with me and we'll be able to get you sorted and see how we can best support you moving through that fear of receiving.

I'm sending you so much love, blessings and abundance, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now.

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Commit to shifting your mindset around sales as healing instead of sales as an attack.

Face and take ownership of the parts that make you the most uncomfortable about sales, and see them as wounds where healing can grow.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | Soulful Sales – Part 3 of 4

Posted on April 20, 2020May 3, 2020 by Sensei Victoria Whitfield

This is week three of four in our exploration of sales, the emotional relationship that we have with sales, and healing that relationship.

If you're seeing this just as the first one make sure you pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week three of four, we're going to be talking about Soulful Sales. Last week, we talked about the scars and shame that people have thrown on us trying to sell us into doing some things that are not in our best interest, as well as the scars and the shame that we have venturing out sharing and speaking: sharing our gifts, sharing our love, sharing our passion to others for maybe the first time. Or in the past, we've had some really burning experiences. Be kind to yourself if that's you, alright?

What my guides are calling for this week in particular is that we raise the vibration of our relationship with sales, wealth, and abundance. Whether you have a business of your own and you've got to turn up the volume on sales so that you can best serve the people that you're called to, or if you don't own a business but you work for a company and you are promoting their work and selling vendors on buying and supporting the company, or selling their clients and prospects into working with that company and bringing people in, raise your vibration.

Even if you aren't doing sales for professionally per se, but in your own personal life, you're advocating for a cause that you sincerely believe in – such as your nonprofit or charity that you feel called to be a part of and see supported – stepping into sales in a soulful way is absolutely necessary. It's such an important skill in life for every single person to anchor into so that we do this with dignity and with respect for ourselves and our value, as well as respect for the other person and their journey.

Let's start there, by the way. How do we start engaging in soulful sales? Well, I would personally point out that that word “soulful” is key – and I’d say that the point where spirituality and sensuality connect is soulful. What does soulful mean? That is the point that spirituality and sensuality connect.

On the spiritual side, that has to do with our values and vision, our ethics, philosophies, beliefs and faith. Spirituality also has to do with causal reality, the above-the-physical, meaning, not just what's here, but what's creating what's here. That's what I would say is spiritual: the spiritual side of things.

And then sensuality. In previous videos, I mentioned that Aristotle tells us we have sight, sound, taste, touch and smell as our five senses, but most experts now agree that we actually have a minimum of 16, and then somewhere around 23 active senses such as magnetoception (that feeling of magnetism when you hold two strong magnets pointing at each other) or thermoception – which causes you to say, "Oh, my god. It's cold in here," because it’s the ability to sense temperature. These senses are just a few beyond sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell.

Sensuality is about making things concrete or physical, and understanding how physical reality connects with our feelings. Where the two – spirituality and sensuality – connect though, is soulfulness. Soulfulness has a feeling. I love how in the book Iron John (and by the way, if you have not read it yet, stop everything and read it now! Or I just might have to read it to you. Ha! Stay on the lookout for that.), Robert Bly says, "Soul is something low and wet." Low and wet. Yes!

When we think of Spirit, it feels like something that is high and crisp and clear, or in the clouds. The Spirit is something uplifted. Feeling spirited is energizing, whereas soul, Baby, is low and wet. This is something that you can feel, something that “sticks to your ribs” as they say in the south, like when we're talking about soul food.

When we're becoming more soulful in the way that we approach sales, we are engaging that vision, that inspiration, that high-level view of Spirit, but then marrying it with being sensual – otherwise known as being grounded. Some of the worst scars that I have received from being sold by someone was from the slimy salesman type: someone who has terrible values, and they're like, "I'm just here to make a dollar. Doesn't matter what you think. This car's kind of broken, but I don't care. You have money. Go buy it." It’s someone who has terrible values (Spirit), and then who's also physically ungrounded (Soul). This can go two ways.

I know that you are thinking of a car salesman with me who has done this to you, and shout-out to my amazing car Angel, who has connected me in the most soulful and respectful way with cars that I love. Hi, Chris, sending lots of love to you and your family. Thank you so much, Chris Campbell for that.

The soulful side is powerful, but in the wrong hands it can be used to manipulate your sensuality. And when someone’s ungrounded and pushy, they're usually not at all allowing you to have an authentic, independent sensual experience of, "Oh, I want a moment to see, take in the color and the feel of this car," for example.

I want to have my own sensual experience: my sight, sound, taste, touch, smell experience of bonding, because buying is a sensual experience. It's for feeling of it. You gotta make people feel a certain way in order for them to buy. You've gotta feel a certain way in order to buy. For me, my core desired feeling when it comes to sales is safe. I always desire to feel safe. My second-high core desired feeling is loved, and it's a distinct sensation I feel.--

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But when someone is ungrounded, they’re impatient with this sacred feeling process: it's either now, or they won't even let you bond with the thing. They're hurried, saying, "No, look, and then we have this, and then this, and then this, and then this." But the “this” is not at all what I'm interested in.

Or, oh, this is even creepier, where they'll go the other end of the spectrum on the sensual side and attack you. For example, you ever been at Lord + Taylor and they spray you with the perfume, and you're like, "Oh my god, no!" And they're like, "Don't you want to buy it? Isn’t it amazing!?” trying to seduce you with sensory overload and persuasion. Or with cars they say, "Come in and get a look at this car. Isn't this car amazing? It's red. It's so you. This is you," while pushing you to touch it – that is the sort of a tactic where they are forcing your sensual bonding.

The sensual aspect of sales is very powerful, and in the wrong hands, it can actually be so scarring and overwhelming. In order for us to come to a space with soulful sales, we want to balance that out, where we can respect the person's sensual experience, their own point of view, while also showing them the vision of what's possible. It's a vision that is going to help them. That's where it becomes soulful: where you tune into your natural intuition, right now, and say, "This thing could really help them if they could just see the vision of how it can."

Soulful sales bridges the gap between someone in need of something, and being connected to the thing that's going to get them where they’re going. Be kind to yourself if this is new or uncomfortable for you to hear. I want us to have this conversation, but it involves turning on your natural intuition now. How do you do that? Well, for one, get my book Natural Intuition Now on Amazon, read it and do the exercises. That's helpful. It's on two-day ship, Prime, and Boom! It'll be right in your mailbox, or you can purchase my Understanding Energy online course, and you'll get the ebook and the audiobook copy, boom, right then and there instantly into your email inbox so you don't even have to wait two days for the physical book to come in the mail.

We're going to continue this conversation next week, but I want to begin invoking this concept of soulful sales so that we can heal our relationship with this wonderful, powerful tool for healing: sales. Sales is a powerful healing tool.

I hear the Oracle Cards calling in the energy. Angels of Abundance oracle cards deck is who we are journeying with all month, by Doreen Virtue and Grant Virtue, her son. Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about opening up to this concept of soulful sales? ...I love it. They always see the different angles. I love this.
Clean-Energy Food. Check this out. "When you fuel your body with a healthful, organic diet, you increase your energy levels and ability to focus. This automatically leads to more efficiency, better ideas, and a higher vibration, which attracts golden opportunities and beneficial relationships." Here's where we're going to leave off for the week.

If you are putting crap, low-vibrational crusty crap non-food items into your body, and calling that nutrition, what that does is that starts to form a film over your natural intuition so it gets harder and harder for you to tune in clearly to sources of alignment within you so that you can see what the right next-step is. When you clear yourself, you clear the way to hearing your inner guidance. On top of that, you start to attract others, other clear people and opportunities, into your life.

The cleaner that you live, the higher you vibrate, and the more you attract that like-vibration. So for the people who do need what you are offering, and who get your life's purpose and who are excited and honored to get to support you as well as participate in the expansion with you professionally, they get naturally attracted into your life. They get naturally attracted into your reality the more that you raise your vibration first.

Soulful sales is not just – and I appreciate the fact that the angels are saying this – soulful sales doesn't start with doing the technique. It actually starts with who you are being right now and where your vibrational level is.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what comes up for you around this. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. I'll see you in the next one. Muah.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the Journey.

Bye for now!
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Just for today...

Focus on raising your personal vibration so that you are being a clear, clean channel for Spirit to come through.

Observe how your ability to trust and hear intuition and innate emotional intelligence improves the more you detox your physical body, surroundings and even your relationships.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.