And did that experience warp your ability to trust yourself and others?
Concerned that you can't tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage because of what happened to you?
Sometimes bad things happen to good people... I know.
Yet Source wants you to know that all things can - and do - work together to form greater good in our lives.
Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter to hear my story of overcoming a very dark time in my life and how I healed from cycles of self-sabotage to embracing a lifestyle of self-care and healing.
This is week four of four of our exploration of what is at stake being an empath entrepreneur.
If this is the first time you're seeing me, please make sure you stop now and go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com to start from part one so that you're grounded in this process. For week four of four my guides have asked us to discuss the power of minding your tribe. Mind your tribe as an empath entrepreneur, as an empath with professional engagements, as an empath growing and advancing his or her career. Mind your tribe.
You know, last week we discussed what your needs are, and we explored understanding the power of environment. Environment meaning the physical environment within which you work. This is super important because how grounded and clear your environment around you is really dictates how productive, focused and effective you're able to be in business and in your career. Now, we're taking that one step further to mind your tribe as an empath entrepreneur.
This is regarding not only the physical things that you have in your environment, making sure that it's clean, orderly, gentle, loving, reminding you of your highest self, reminding you of your own positive inherent nature, your own inherent clarity and empowerment. It’s not just having lovely things – to some extent, if you're by yourself, okay, that's a great start – but now the guides want us to discuss the power of minding our tribe of people around us.
What is this concept of tribe, by the way? Well, a tribe is similar to a family. It is a group of those of us who are cut from the same cloth, emotionally and spiritually speaking. That's what we mean when we're talking about a tribe. What we’re talking about is not just if you are an indigenous person, like your tribe genetically speaking, but I'm talking about for everyone, for all of us. It’s feeling like we have our posse, our cheerleading squad, our equals, the people who are on that same emotional, energetic, spiritual and even professional level. Mind your tribe.
I want you to think for a moment right now as we invoke this topic. Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Who are the five people who have influenced your outlook the most? Who are the five people that you purchase the most things from? Who are the five people whose books, articles and blogs you read or listen to the most? Who are the five people, if you have five, who when stuff hits the fan, you could call them and lean on them? Mind your tribe. Be kind to yourself. Having those who are strong enough to uphold you as the strong one, having five is uncommon. We're lucky if we even have one, maybe two.
Ensuring that as an empath, you have nourishing people around you is part of building that nourishing environment that keeps your energy clear, productive, bright and uplifting. If there aren’t good people around you, be kind to yourself. If there are people around you who shoot down your creative ideas, who encourage you to be pessimistic, fearful, competitive, insecure or doubtful, be kind to yourself. These may not be nourishing people for your tribe.
How do you know if someone is nourishing for your tribe? Because when you're around them, your energy feels clear, or in other words, when you're around them, emotionally you feel safe, uplifted and inspired in a positive way. So, how many people do you have around you that make you feel safe, uplifted and inspired? They don't have to be physically next to you in order to nourish you. As an empath, we have this gift of being able to absorb others' physical and emotional feelings, but not just in person, like right here physically in the room with you and I. We can feel them at a distance.
In fact, time and space have no dictation, they have no governance over how effective your empathic sense may be. It could be that you spend your time really soaking up your grandmother's wisdom. When you think of what to do or how to make a decision, immediately your mind goes to your grandmother. Who's an excellent example of this? Other than myself, I would have to say Lisa Nichols. She's always talking about all that wonderful, wonderful wisdom she soaked up from her grandmother. Bringing that up in her. Her grandmother, although she may be more than alive at this time is still part of her tribe, and through Lisa, her grandmother inspires millions. Now that’s a high vibe tribe. Positive vibes only!
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So, mind your tribe. Does this mean you need to cut people out of your life and stop being around them? I would say leave that to your own discretion. For someone who's survived abuse, there comes a certain point where you say no more and then you're out, or in my case, there came a point where I said, "I have to leave." I had to cut this person out of my life. It was not healthy, but at the same time, maybe this is a complicated relationship that is not necessarily abusive. It's just an opportunity for you to learn how to communicate better. Maybe it's your life partner or your child, so on and so forth.
In that respect, what you want to do, if the people who are very close to you aren't very nourishing, is to go and seek out those who are nourishing. Add more good rather than subtract the bad. Just keep crowding yourself with more good, nourishing, uplifting, inspiring and safe people. Pile them on. Pile them on. Five to one ratio, some people have recommended, if you're a numbers person, to bring in more of that love to surround you. As an empath, you need nourishing people. You need that high vibe tribe to keep your energy clear and flowing abundantly, organically.
I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month long we have been journeying with Archangel Michael. Again, he’s the patron angel of protection and clearing and he's a wonderful archetype to start with, and to call on, to keep your energy clear. Okay, Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about minding our tribe as empathic entrepreneurs? ... This is where we'll leave off for the week, and for the month. My goodness! Innocence.
Innocence. Dear God and angels, thank you for helping me see that all of your qualities of pure love and light are reflected within me and all others. Help me embrace my God given innocence so that I may be at peace.
Okay. So I just heard very clearly in the energy that someone watching this right now has a mindset that says, "I don't deserve any better than what I have right now. I don't deserve to be around people who are safe or I'm not worthy because of X, Y, Z.” Or “I'm not good enough, so that means I cannot bring in people who are high vibe.” Or “I should just be satisfied with the people who are around me, no matter how much they hurt me." If that was you thinking that just now, I want you to know that the angels are assuring you that we are all at essence innocent. We are all at essence worthy, and what I mean by innocent is just as innocent as nature.
Whether or not you believe in the inherent beauty and dignity of nature, you would never assume evil of a wild animal. They're just there. They're just a part of nature. That kind of innocence is what we're talking about. Sure, we may do bad things, like a lion might cut apart another animal and eat it, but is that really bad? It's just the circle of life. I mean, sure, it's perceived bad to the one getting eaten, and for us it may appear violent, but at essence, that lion is still just a part of nature as is that other animal that they're consuming.
Remember your innocence. You are just as worthy as the next person to receive love, to feel safe at work. You are just as worthy whether you've done things that would earn you the Nobel peace prize or if you never got out of bed or even open your eyes. You are just as worthy of love and support. I love that the sun is coming out to affirm that, and on that note, please make sure you comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. What's coming up for you hearing all of this?
Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week. If you need more support, by the way, don't forget to go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact to set up your call. I would love to talk to you about how you could join our tribe here of high vibe entrepreneurs if you're looking for people who would be happy to be in your corner rooting for you as we altogether glow as we grow. I'll see you next week.
May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.
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Just for today...
Choose to believe that you are worthy, enough and inherently innocent and precious, just like the forests or the ocean.
See yourself as worthy of being surrounded by people who love, honor, respect and cherish you as are, because you are indeed precious.
Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!
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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.
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